Dear Patricia,

 

I’m glad you found a nice place to spend the summer.  It sounds ideal.  I read with interest the Amma dream.  I’m glad it was positive.  The last one was negative, wasn’t it?  This is the way the mind is, projecting one thing one time, another the next.  I know you didn’t ask me what I thought about the dream but I will tell you anyway. 

 

I think Amma in the dream is a symbol of who you are.  I know you like to think of Amma as a person outside yourself, as your guru, and she is on one level, but on another level I see her as your mind’s way to telling you about yourself.  I think it is saying that you need to love yourself completely…as you are. 

 

The part of the dream where she said “Look, I can stand on my head” and then she jumped forward I take to mean that you should trust your highest understanding of yourself…which is that you are not separate from Amma, the Self.  And this is the way ‘forward,’ The ‘head’ in dreams usually indicates one’s thought life.  In India they worship the feet of the guru because it represents the under standing, the knowledge that he or she is whole and complete, that he or she knows that nothing is missing, that nothing can be taken away.

 

I think this is something you might think about because one of the themes in your writing is about a sense of loss.  When you understand yourself as Amma your sense of loss will never come back…because you are partless.  If the world takes away everything you remain the same.  If it gives you everything you want you are not changed.  I think the dream is asking you to think like this.  It is an upside down way of thinking…just the opposite of the normal way, the way that causes you so much pain. 

 

It is a lovely statement of bhakti when you say, “…but i already decided that even if she had abandoned me i would be happy just to get near her, if that is allowed, and not demanding anything.”  I think, however, that you are thinking incorrectly.  How can your Self as Self or as Amma, abandon you?  It is not possible.  Actually you can’t get near to her because you are her.  Perhaps your body can be near or far but how far are you from your Self? 

 

I think you should demand something.  I think you should demand to understand that you are not separate from Amma, that she is you.  As long as you take her to be somebody outside yourself you will be full of longing and disappointment.  You will feel happy sometimes and unhappy at other times.  A little while ago you were feeling cut off from her, now you feel connected.  How can these feelings be real?  How can you know which one to trust?   A little while ago you were fed up with India and now you are booking a ticket to go back.  Which of these feelings are real?  When one happens you take it to be real and then when the opposite happens you take it to be real.  If it is a good dream you feel good, if a bad dream you feel bad.  Why tie your sense of who you are to these subtle conflicting feelings?   

 

If you say you are connected or unconnected it means that you and Amma are two different things.  But this is not true.  If you can see that India and Amma are you, then you can be happy wherever your karma takes you.   The guru is supposed to teach you that you are the guru.  It is not a big and glorious thing to be the guru.  It is a very simple understanding, the understanding that you are whole and complete, that nothing is missing, that nothing can be added to or subtracted from you. 

 

I have been sick with a cold for five days so I didn’t feel like writing.  It came the day I returned to California after my European trip.  Now its fine and yesterday I flew to New Orleans to visit a dear friend.  I’ll be here three weeks working on a website for my books and artwork.  Don’t worry about me getting a big ego from my big lifestyle.  It is nothing.  It doesn’t make me happy or unhappy.  It is just my karma.

 

Much love to you,

 

Ram