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You Can’t Be Detached
John: Dear Ram, I had the honour of attending one of your workshops whilst you were in Cape Town. What a lovely experience.
I have always been drawn to the experience of doing changa or a DMT journey (as far as I’m aware, much “knowledge” that the Vedanta practice expresses is experienced/or can be through taking DMT). I’m just a bit scared of becoming “detached”… please tell me your thoughts?
Ram: Detachment is not something to be frightened of. It does not happen all at once. As you live you slowly realize that the things outside yourself that once gave you pleasure lose their allure and you lose interest in them. But you need to go through them. No spiritual practice can make you detached. Just live your life and pay attention to the outcomes of your actions, and non-attachment will happen naturally.
John: I have had lovely realisations whilst following Vedanta (and listening to your audio recordings). However, how am I able to not lose that clarity and those clarifying realisations so quickly? Is it through CONTINUOUS self-enquiry that the “flame is kept”??
Ram: Yes, indeed.
John: I am 22 years old and despite that I realise I spend most of my time and energy chasing short-lived, temporary happiness. How can I go about still enjoying my 22-year-old ego self without feeling bad?!! I feel a bit fake, as if I was one person one moment and another person the next, a bit of a naughty, shagging, sex-drugs-and-rock-n-roller!!
Ram: You should enjoy yourself fully. Just pay attention to the results of what you do. See if the results are as good as you imagine them to be. No need to feel like a fake. You are not “supposed” to be a certain way. Be yourself. Do what feels natural.
John: Last question and I’ll leave you alone!! I am not planning to have kids anytime soon. However, I would love to know how you would suggest a way to raise children that does not entail intense spiritual practices and allows for a normal lifestyle. How can you raise them in a way that they are NOT CONDITIONED so when thet time is right Vedanta won’t be so blocked by bullsh*t!!!!!!!!
Ram: The best way is for you to be a happy, loving, self-confident person. All you really need to give kids is plenty of love. This will give them the feeling that they are okay and they will feel confident to face what life brings. When they start to think for themselves then you can help them to understand the self.
~ Love, Ram