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Buckle up the Lip, and Forbearance
Rose: Where I am is a happy place, but in Wavertree, which is almost completely tamasic with some rajas, it’s a different kettle of fish, so I try to avoid the place as much as possible. I do find it quite difficult sometimes to keep my opinions to myself (I seem to forget that it’s all just the gunas playing out). For example, I was at the chemist’s, and the lady behind the counter wasn’t very polite. I blurted out that she had an attitude problem. This was a big mistake, as her response was then aggressive. I find that people these days are becoming less and less polite. Could you please give me a little advice? I know this all has to play out, but it seems quite rough sometimes indeed! Namaste, Daniel.
Daniel: Yup, it’s a great skill to learn to bite one’s tongue. If you don’t have anything pleasant to say, then best buckle up the lip.
The most important sense to control is the organ of speech because it is through our words that both healthy and unhealthy emotions reach the world.
Firm speech should not be confused with unpleasant speech. Sometimes a situation requires that we firmly take a stand against someone’s adharmic action. But more often than not, most situations are not for us to interfere/intervene with.
You would need to use your own discrimination to assess the appropriate response/action.
My advice would be to understand that people cannot be other than who/what they are. Continue to recognise the gunas at play and flick each agitating thought off by understanding your non-personal nature as unconcerned awareness. This comes back to the application of self-inquiry.
The expression “like water off a duck’s back” is a good one.
Surround yourself with positive people who offer peace of mind.
When you find yourself in the grip of anger, bite your tongue or just walk away from the situation.
Rose: Thanks for the sterling advice as ever, Daniel. I will continue to discriminate the real (me) from the apparent (mithya). What else is left but to do this?! What a marvelous teaching! In addition, it is a great way to demolish/negate unhealthy emotion and see the love-light Reality of each and every situation. Even if the “other person” unfortunately cannot, due to the grip of tamasika.
And I have noticed the miracle of true forbearance in that when one completely accepts a tamasic/rajasic situation it “becomes” sattvic. Or is that just nonsense?
Namaste, Daniel. xxx
Daniel: Spot on! Forbearance is a prime qualification.
Rose: Oh, thank you, Daniel! I almost forgot about forbearance being a major (qualification) quality for seekers and finders alike! xxx. Have a lovely day “out there” and we will speak again soon, I hope.