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Emotional Vibrations from Other People
Seeker: Ramji, I am experiencing an unexpected side effect of inquiry, I think, or maybe I’m imagining things? As my mind becomes more clear, it seems like I am receiving emotional vibrations from other people, particularly people who have a negative feeling toward me. I feel it as a subtle disturbance in my mind and the thought of a certain person will enter my mind. Ego instantly reacts with a defensive emotional vibration. It happens fast too, like buzz – who is it? – oh yeah? Well, screw you too! If I actually get to interact with the person their body language seems to confirm the “hit.”
Anyway, it also happens with people feeling warmth and gratitude toward me or people wanting something from me. I will get a “hit” and a minute or even seconds later the phone will ring and it’s them. Anyway, what to do about it?
It’s a little hard to really recognize how distorted and sick other people’s subtle bodies really are, particularly when someone is pretending to be a friend. The more I become aware of my own ego’s petty feelings the more obvious other people’s feelings are becoming. I know it’s pointless to judge them. They are just as unaware as I was. But is it wrong to focus on someone who has entered your vibrational field of vision? Part of me is wondering if it’s a kind of violation of privacy? Or am I losing my mind and just imagining all this?
Ramji: When the mind starts to get quiet from inquiry, it often becomes sensitive to the total mind (Isvara). It’s a good sign that the filter between you and the world is breaking down. It is good in that it gives you an edge as far as how to respond, but it is bad because if you act on it – particularly if it is someone else’s thought about you – you will run into resistance because the person does not know that they are projecting – or if they do they assume that you don’t know how they “really feel.” A person can’t be held responsible for their unconscious content.
So, what should you do? Turn your mind to the self. The positive thoughts are fine in that they harmonize the mind, but the negative thoughts disturb it, so you shouldn’t dwell on them. You should think: “I want to be happy. This thought is disturbing me. How can I get rid of it? I can find the upside and convert it to a positive thought. He or she wouldn’t be thinking of me in the first place if they didn’t care about me. She is in a bad mood, poor dear. She wants love. Let’s see if I can find a way to love him/her. In any case, feelings and emotions are not real. People wouldn’t think such thoughts if they had control of their minds, because negative thoughts injure the thinker and the object of thought if they are expressed. Why do I care what people think? I must have low self-esteem. I should keep my mind on the self, as it is the one thought that is always good,” etc.