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Is Vedanta Gay or Straight?
Jerry: Ramji, I have a theory and question based on observation that I wonder if Vedanta speaks to at all. In my dealings with people in the spiritual realm of Native healing I have run into many gay and lesbian people who are very screwed up emotionally and looking for help, especially in the Bay area.
Ramji: It does and it doesn’t speak to it.
Jerry: In my work growing weed I have observed that a female plant that is stressed out due to environmental factors will change into a hermaphrodite and attempt to pollinate itself. Is it possible that the subtle body in plants and the subtle body in humans reacts similarly?
Ramji: Yes. There is only one subtle body. It is more complex in animals than plants and even more complex in humans, but the basic structure is the same. The subtle body is in the creation where duality is the coin of the realm. It’s nature is desire. Pleasure and pain are native to the subtle body. When it experiences pain it immediately tries to compensate; it seeks pleasure, i.e. “healing.” Perhaps most people don’t think about it, but desire is painful. This is why one tries to satisfy it as quickly as possible.
Jerry: Meaning there is some kind of stress that causes the subtle body to identify with the opposite gender as a survival tactic? I notice that even in gay couples there is always a masculine and a feminine partner. So to me it seems that the subtle body has re-identified as the opposite sex while the physical body remains the same. I’m sure gay people would probably reject the theory. But what do you think?
Ramji: I agree. And in each individual there is a “psychic” man and a “psychic” woman, meaning there are apparently conflicting impulses insofar as men and women are believed to be opposites, which they aren’t. They are complements. Isvara as the creation needs them both equally.
Homosexuality is one of Isvara’s little paradoxes – the unenlightened might call it a perversion – because it defies Isvara’s creation logic. How can the species survive if semen doesn’t find its way into a vagina?
But, in maya, Isvara’s logic is not always appreciated. Jivas develop their own peculiar forms of logic. So if in this life or in a previous life the jiva had a problem with a parent, he or she might associate the behavior of the parent with the parent’s sexuality and develop a strong aversion to the sex of the parent. Whether a person is kind or violent has nothing to do with their sexuality; you find both characteristics in both sexes; they are human, i.e. subtle body characteristics. At the same time, the sexual impulse is so deep that it precedes circumstances, i.e. parentage, so it can run to the same sex, even if the default is the opposite sex.
Gays are the last people in the whole world to understand sexuality objectively because of their extreme attachment to it as a solution to the problem of samsara. There are very few gays in the Vedanta world because sex is a vasana that sexually-oriented people are loathe to subject to inquiry. What if the self is genderless? ☺ I once was stupid enough to tell a gay person that he wasn’t gay before I had time to explain that I meant he was the self. He called me a religious bigot. Having said that, I notice that more and more gays are open to Vedanta, probably because the gay world is maturing; dispassion toward their sexuality is developing.
Nothing in maya is actually about what jivas think it is about; it is always about freedom. Sex, gay or straight, does not solve the suffering issue, obviously, because I am a jiva caught in duality before I am a body. From Isvara’s point of view sex is sex and flesh is flesh. It is just the five elements, consciousness apparently rubbing itself. So there is no problem on that level.
The only problem is attachment to the belief that a particular type of body-mind can make you happy. It can, if you obey your likes and dislikes and if you are happy with temporary happiness. But, since nobody is satisfied with temporary happiness, sex – gay or straight – is a solution to nothing except the scrotal itch.