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So Many Open Doors
Nancy: Dear beloved James, long time I didn’t write. Hope you are fine.
My life is very interesting, and everything happens is very fast in the field of maya…
Now I want to ask you about dharma because I have the choice between two jobs, one as a social worker. The other one is in a hotel as yoga teacher. I learned that in India, and I practise already since some years for myself and friends, as a health trainer and massage therapist.
This job as a personal health trainer offered to me by someone who received a massage and yoga lection from me and was very impressed – I don’t know why… Vedanta changed my whole life. Now there are so many doors open it seems and it is not so easy to choose which way is right. Or is there any right and wrong?
James: On this level there is no right and wrong. Right and wrong has to do with your values. Your values are right.
Nancy: Now I don’t really know which one is my dharma – both possibilities are there, and I don’t see clearly which one is right. If I don’t work as a social worker, I feel that it is sad because I studied this for a reason and maybe God wants me to work as social worker and help people that might need it. Also, maybe if I don’t practise social work it could be difficult to get a job in this field after some years.
Otherwise the job in the hotel is possibly more relaxed and better-paid because rich people come there. And to have money is also nice. ☺
But it is not a money-vasana. ☺ I am just not sure if I can make a mistake.
James: You can make any mistake. If you are happy with your mistakes, it shows you are mature.
It seems the choice is between long-term security and short-term gain, between a more freedom in moving around or sitting still in a profession. I am not you, but if all things were equal I would take the hotel job to have the money and the freedom to change. But it is a decision you have to make. It is not what you do, it is how you do it. In either case take the karma yoga attitude.
Nancy: Also, in my relationship it seems like there is no rule. It could be possible to have a family with him and also to be alone without relationship. It seems like there is really no fixed karma??
James: No fixed karma. You are free to choose. If you decide for a family, it is a twenty-five-year commitment, in which case you should probably choose the social work, as it is more stable. Or you can get a relationship with someone who does not want children and take the hotel job and have a fast life.
Nancy: So I can choose what I want – family and the positive and negative aspects of this or freedom and the positive and negative aspects of it. Is that right? There is no fixed future – I create it?
James: Yes. There is an upside and downside to everything. It is all the same. Only your attitude makes the difference. There is no fixed future.
Nancy: But every creation has the duality inside itself. With that knowledge – this is freedom?!
Nancy: So I have full responsibility for my actions? But the rest is up to Bhagavan and not really up to me?
James: Yes, you are free to choose. The results of your choices are up to Bhagavan. But you can also choose not to accept the results that Bhagavan gives. You are always free. You only get bound by your choices if you take them seriously. The choices and the results exist, but they are not real.
Nancy: Please, James, can you make this clear to me? Much love and I stick to Vedanta-knowledge and share it with “others” in many ways…
James: Good for you, Nancy! Stick with Vedanta.
Nancy: Much, much love, James. Thanks for everything. Always connected in heart…
James: Much love to you too, Nancy.