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The Sweet Syrupy Stuff
Maurice: Dear James, it seems you’re lots freer with your love than when I first met you many years ago in Tiruvannamalai. Then you were so disdainful of the sweet syrupy stuff. I very much appreciate your personal care with me as one of your devotees.
~ Love in return, Maurice
James: Hi, Maurice. The sweet syrupy stuff isn’t actually love, Maurice. It is just emotion, sentimentality. The reason people listen to my words is because they are soaked in real love, not “talk-love.” So many so-called enlightened people have been putting on the smarmy, smiley-faced, sappy love act that seekers have come to think it is actually love. Love is not a feeling. It is not an emotion. It is what is. If you look around, the whole creation moves by and for love. It is just consciousness – attention – flowing through a given body-mind to an object.
You have to consider the context in which that attitude occurs. It is based on the idea that a person is looking for moksa. When I make those statements, it is as a Vedanta teacher who presupposes that seekers are actually looking for freedom, not for love from someone else. You do not go into an emotional relationship with someone for freedom. You go into it to experience certain feelings, which you may define as love. So given that context, the apparent distain I express is perfectly appropriate.
Most seekers are not completely committed to moksa. They would prefer to have their cake and eat it too, i.e. have what they want in samsara and get moksa too. It does not work that way. This is why the foremost qualification for moksa is a BURNING desire for freedom, not a burning desire to love somebody or to be loved by somebody.
Actually, I am and have always been a very passionate, feeling person, but my feelings flow out of knowledge, not out of desire. But if someone has an unfulfilled need for love, he or she will think I am a cynic. It is not true.
~ Much love, James