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The Human Being Is Not Real
Roland: Hello, Sundari. Thank you so much for your email.
I feel that there is some kind of a fear to stop with my guru because he makes himself so exclusive and tells others that they are fake. The fear of losing my chance of enlightenment or finding another real enlightened master is gone; it’s kind of funny… I also feel deeply that life is so loving and so helpful in all situations, that it can’t be true that you only get one chance. I have to take this step, this risk, and see what happens.
Because of deep traumas and deep suffering I really wish is to be a real human being, with warm hands to hold others and a loving heart who cares in all situations.
That would be the highest for me. Thank you so much that you take to shine your light on this situation.
~ With love, Roland
Sundari: Hello, Roland. I am sure that Isvara will send you what you need; when the student is ready, the teacher arrives.
Vedanta is not about becoming anything, especially not a “real human being.” Vedanta is about your true nature, awareness. It reveals to a qualified mind that is committed to self-inquiry and exposed to self-knowledge that you are that which knows the human being and is free of the human being. Vedanta does this by removing the ignorance of your true nature as awareness.
The human being is not real as defined by Vedanta, because the human being is not always present and is always changing. Only awareness, your true identity, fits that the definition of “real” because it is “that which is always present and never changes.” Vedanta is about discriminating awareness (YOU) from the objects that appear in you – and the human being is an object known to you, awareness. You are not a human being, you are whole and complete, ever-present, unchanging, non-dual awareness. The human being with a name and a life story is just an idea in you, awareness.
As love is already your true nature but is obscured by ignorance, you cannot become more loving towards “others.” Firstly, because there are no real others – there is only you, awareness. Secondly, you cannot gain something you already have; your true nature is love. You can only lose the ignorance that is preventing you from realising your true nature as awareness, which is pure love. When you know this you do not need others to complete or validate you or to make you feel like you exist. You do not need to love others or be loved by them – or to be a “good person.”
When you know your true nature to be awareness, then you automatically treat everyone and everything with love because you know that it is all you, although you are free of all objects just like the ocean is free of the wave but the wave is never free of the ocean. You will also have love in spades because there will be nothing preventing you from knowing what love really is. You will not need love, because you will know that you are love.
You can only realise your true nature by exposing the mind to a valid means of knowledge which prepares the mind to receive self-knowledge, which is the only thing capable of removing the ignorance of who you are. Vedanta is such a means. A true guru is one who guides you to discover that you are your own guru and always have been. Freedom from suffering is only achieved when you realise your true nature as awareness and end your dependence on objects to give you fulfilment because you know that you are already full. Thus freedom means freedom from the person or human being, not for them. You will then have no problem with the human being, because you will understand what the human being is but you will not be limited, because you will not be identified with the human being.
If you are ready to put an end to seeking and to become a finder – and if freedom from suffering is your goal and not spirituality as a lifestyle – then what you need to do is to undertake self-inquiry. If you would like me to help you I am very happy to do so. If you do want help I recommend that you read James’ book How to Attain Enlightenment very slowly, without skipping ahead. Watch as many of his videos or DVDs that you can and also go to the website and read the e-satsangs. You will find that every question you could think of has been answered there.
~ Namaste, Sundari